Thoughts on Ronda Rich’s “Seductive Flirting”

Every year I re-read What Southern Women Know about Flirting by Ronda Rich. This book has been a staple in my library for the last 9 years! I first read this book the summer before my sophomore year in college (2008) and I have recommended it to almost every woman I have met since.

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That summer was also my first time preparing for a sorority recruitment. That year, our brilliant and beautiful recruitment chair recommended this book as a summer reading to prepare for Fall recruitment. There is a whole section in this book about social flirting, which was primarily what we focused on in our workshops….I like to think it helped 🙂

However, beyond college, this book has seen me through so many seasons of life. I feel like every time I read it I learn something new. In addition to social flirting, which applies to how you may interact with strangers, friends, and work colleagues, Ronda Rich also talks about courtship and seductive flirting. I thought, given the nature of this blog, I would share some of her insights here regarding the latter.

In chapter twelve, The Fine Art of Winning his Heart with Red Silk and Black Lace, Rich discusses the importance of lingerie and self-care in seductive flirting.

One of the principal messages in this chapter is the importance of thinking “Beautiful Thoughts.” It all really does start there, doesn’t it? It’s no secrete that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in another person. Lingerie, in my opinion, is an accessory (and a very important one) that helps facilitate a state of mind.

Rich also discusses the importance of beauty treatments, fragrance, and posture. With regard to beauty treatments, she simply recommends treating yourself well. That is to say, we all should establish a routine of pampering ourselves, whether that is with a bubble bath and glass of wine, or a tea party and lingerie…it is so important to spend time with yourself doing whatever makes you feel pretty. This also means wearing your silk gowns to bed every night, if only, and especially for yourself!
With regard to fragrance…Rich states that it should be a part of your self-care routine, but also a part of the seductive flirting process, as fragrance is a powerful aphrodisiac. She recommends dabbing it on before bed, occasionally spraying your pillows, and layering during the day. Note: Layering a fragrance helps with its lasting power. Layering is also all about the process; pampering yourself with lotion, powder, and then perfume.
My personal favorite is:

Coco Mademoiselle

Chanel’s Coco Mademoiselle
You can find the lotion, powder, and perfume here!

Finally, she also stresses the importance of the “Perfect Match!” She writes this with regard to matching lingerie, stating that:
“Matching underneath is just as important as matching on top. When you wear sexy lingerie, you feel sexy. And when you feel sexy, you act sexy. It’s that simple. “

My take away from this chapter is that self-care builds self-love, and self-love builds confidence!! I hope you all decide to check out What Southern Women Know about Flirting, and some of Ronda Rich’s other work.
There really is something for everyone in this book ❤

Until next time,

xoxo
Marie

6 Trendy Boudoir Outfit Ideas to Watch Out For

Boudoir Photography Site

A couple of years back, you could say with much confidence that boudoir was a popular trend. Brides would go out of their way to have surprise gifts for their grooms. Today, it is a norm. Everyone does it. People enjoy it. Any person can have boudoir photography and look awesome. Regardless of your body type, you can still take advantage of various boudoir outfits to suit the occasion. So which trendy ideas can you opt for?

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Sexy T-shirt Look

Can you get one of his old white T-shirts? Well, it might as well be the only thing to capture the most out of the photo session. Tie the shirt across your chest to give this sexy, witty look. Match it with a tempting pair of underpants. You can still choose booty shorts for the lower part. It is the perfect outfit for someone who is ready to…

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Lemon Matcha Cake Bites

 

Thirsty for Tea

These Lemon Matcha Cake Bites are a slightly more sophisticated version of cake balls, which have been all the craze over the last few years.  These truffles are just as easy to make as traditional cake balls, but with some matcha green tea powder, fresh lemon, and white chocolate, these cute little cake bites are transformed from sweet treats to charming one-of-a-kind confections.

I think I’ve gone matcha-crazed lately.  It’s that beautiful, natural green color that I can’t get enough of, especially as Christmas is coming around the corner.  There’s just no “leaf green” shade of green food coloring that can match the beauty, taste, and wholesomeness of matcha green tea.

I’ve made a matcha pound cake here by adding 2 tablespoons of matcha to my favorite pound cake recipe, but the green tea cake can also be made by mixing the same amount of matcha tea powder into a…

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Milk-Tea White Russians <3

I first discovered milk tea a few months ago. I was attending a dessert party with some friends this past fall and wanted to bring something that would go well with pumpkin pie, cookies, crème brulee… and all other sorts of rich and decadent desserts.

My go-to is always tea. It’s hard to go wrong there but then I found a recipe for milk tea! It’s pretty simple, you just steep the tea in milk instead of water…and ta-da!! There isn’t much else that can make you feel cozier than warm milk and cookies.

Since then I have been experimenting with milk tea. So far I have made a milk tea glaze – for tea cakes. And now…Milk-Tea White Russians!

Here is what you will need to master this drink:

  1. The perfect tea maker: You can find it here
  2. Loose leaf tea of your choice
  3. Milk

    Once you have stepped the tea, add 2oz of you milk-tea to the following:

  4. Baileys espresso Crème Liqueur (1.5oz)
  5. Coffee Liqueur (.25oz)
  6. Vodka of choice (.5oz)

Then simply shake and pour over ice!

This drink is such an indulgence! It is also sooo simple to make. My favorite tea to use with this is Tevana’s White Chocolate Peppermint.

xoxo-
Marie

 

Daily Makeup Routine (Winter Edition)

I ❤ makeup. On my list of favorite things…I would say that it comes in at a close second, next to tea time and lingerie (which are tied for my #1). That said, there are few things that make me happier than finding a new lipstick or buying a newly coveted eye shadow pallet. However, similar to my closet, there are a few staples on my dressing table right now.

These of course change with the season, or depend on the occasion. I thought I would share what has become my daily makeup routine this winter! These have been my go-to products when I am getting ready for work, errands, etc.

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Beauty Blender
Urban Decay Pore Perfecting Complexion Primer Potion
MAC Prep + Prime Fix +
Chanel -Perfection LUMIÈRE Velvet
Dior – Diorskin Forever Compact Flawless Perfection Fusion Wear
Anastasia Beverly Hills – Brush #12
Anastasia Beverly Hills DIPBROW™ Pomade

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Yves Saint Laurent – Rouge Volupté Shine Oil-In-Stick Lipstick
Chanel – Joues Contraste Powder Blush
Lorac – Unzipped Eyeshadow Palette
Too Faced – Chocolate Soleil Matte Bronzer
Laura Geller – Baked Gelato Swirl Illuminator
Dior – Diorshow Iconic Overcurl Mascara
Tarte – Lash Curler
Kat Von D – Tattoo Liner
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