Incorporating Lingerie into your Daily Style Part 2 (NYE)

Happy 2017!!!  

Last week I shared some thoughts on incorporating lingerie into your daily style. This is a new venture for me, so I am sharing my experiences with this on the blog.

I tried out look#2 (you can read more on that here) last night.
My general thoughts on this outfit are:

I wore this jumpsuit and teddy combo out for dinner and drinks with my girlfriends last night, and I don’t think anyone even noticed this was lingerie!! I was a little nervous at first, because I am typically a more conservative person when it comes to how I dress. I sent out this photo to three of my closet friends, asking if it was “too much,” to which they gave me mixed reviews. I decided to just go for it and I honestly felt more comfortable wearing this than most of the clothes I wear on a daily basis.

Logistically speaking, I think you could go one of two ways with this particular outfit. When I ordered this jumpsuit, it was pictured on the model with a bralette underneath the mesh top. I think this is a darling option, especially if you are feeling super great about your body or if the weather is nice. However, I think for winter and for those of us still holding onto a few holiday pounds, the teddy is a nice alternative because it provides a little extra coverage in the torso area. It is also the slightly more conservative option…which I really like. Oh! And I really loved the lace and mesh combo.

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With that, I am really feeling inspired to try out more looks like this & get more daily wear from my lingerie closet. I owe a great deal of gratitude to my sweet friend K. who fully embraces the “less is more” notion in her fashion choices. She really has given me so much courage to wear whatever I feel most comfortable in, regardless of what anyone thinks.

My lovely friend also has great taste, and deserves a style inspiration shout out!
I had to share her outfit from brunch today. She wore this gorgeous mesh bodysuit with metallic gold applique and paired it with black leggings. I think this is just such an elegant look (see more style inspiration like this here under look#3).

This bodysuit really is such a statement piece. Every time she wears it she is simply the most well dressed person in the room.

Unfortunately the boutique where she purchased this amazing piece closed this past October, but I still had to share…

Until next time ❤

xoxo-
Marie

Authenticity (Dec. 29, 2016)

“Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?”
-Charles Bukowski

As 2016 draws to an end, I have been drafting my list of new years resolutions (which I will share here). However, I keep coming back to one that is my primary resolution for 2017.

Resolution #1:
Choose behaviors that are consistent with the most authentic version of yourself.

 In graduate school, my classmates and I learned several different therapy styles (note: my education is in clinical psychology and family studies). However, the one that has always stuck with me was ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy). I view ACT as more than a therapeutic approach though, and here I want to share/propose it as a lifestyle choice.

“My life – my personality, my habits, even my speech – is a combination of the books I choose to read, the people I choose to listen to, and the thoughts I choose to tolerate in my mind…”
-Andy Andrews

There are a lot of components to ACT that are beyond the scope of this post (you can read more on that here). As it relates to my new year’s resolution, ACT is all about “living in a values consistent way”. So what does that mean and how does one do that?

The first step would be to consider what you value most. In therapy, you would probably be asked to rank these values. For example the top 6 values on my list are as follows:

1.Authenticity (to be authentic, genuine, real; to be true to myself)
2.Self-care (to look after my health and wellbeing)
3.Beauty (to appreciate, create, or cultivate beauty in myself, others, & environment)
4.Intimacy (to open up, reveal, and share myself in my close relationships)
5.Creativity (to be creative or innovative)
6.Order (to be orderly and organized)

So your unique set of values represents, on some level, the most authentic version of yourself. The next step then, is to identify behaviors that serve your values and then consciously choose to spend your time engaging in these behaviors based on each value’s priority level. That is, if your #1 value is family, the corresponding behavior should be spending time with family. Further, this should take priority over behaviors that match values #2-infinity.

Here are some more examples of behaviors that match the values I have identified for myself:

1.Authenticity
-act in a values consistent way, be consistent between interactions with others, match
words, feelings, and actions
2.Self-care
-yoga, working out, tea-time, reading, clean eating, sleep
3.Beauty
-kindness, give, volunteer, church, nursery, hair, nails, makeup, flowers, lingerie,
perfume, give compliments, tea parties, animals, books, art,
4.Intimacy
-spend time with friends, have meaningful conversations, fall in love
5.Creativity
-writing (journaling and publishing research articles), crafting, drawing, blogging
6.Order
-cleaning the apartment regularly, laundry, dishes, keep desk organized, clean out purse

It sounds simple enough, but often times it seems that instead of managing our time this way, we fill our calendars with so many dates, activities, and events that do not serve our values. Also, as women, society conditions us from a very early age to acquiesce, so really this is not surprising.

The result though, is when we do this, we are often over worked, over booked, and just simply tired. In my opinion, the most authentic and healthy thing we can do for ourselves in 2017 would be to identify our values, say no when we are presented with plans that do not align with our values…. and more importantly make time to say yes when they do!

Warsan Shire said it best:
Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself – what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat.”

If you’d like to complete this exercise yourself you can find a list of values here or here!