Thoughts on Ronda Rich’s “Seductive Flirting”

Every year I re-read What Southern Women Know about Flirting by Ronda Rich. This book has been a staple in my library for the last 9 years! I first read this book the summer before my sophomore year in college (2008) and I have recommended it to almost every woman I have met since.

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That summer was also my first time preparing for a sorority recruitment. That year, our brilliant and beautiful recruitment chair recommended this book as a summer reading to prepare for Fall recruitment. There is a whole section in this book about social flirting, which was primarily what we focused on in our workshops….I like to think it helped 🙂

However, beyond college, this book has seen me through so many seasons of life. I feel like every time I read it I learn something new. In addition to social flirting, which applies to how you may interact with strangers, friends, and work colleagues, Ronda Rich also talks about courtship and seductive flirting. I thought, given the nature of this blog, I would share some of her insights here regarding the latter.

In chapter twelve, The Fine Art of Winning his Heart with Red Silk and Black Lace, Rich discusses the importance of lingerie and self-care in seductive flirting.

One of the principal messages in this chapter is the importance of thinking “Beautiful Thoughts.” It all really does start there, doesn’t it? It’s no secrete that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities in another person. Lingerie, in my opinion, is an accessory (and a very important one) that helps facilitate a state of mind.

Rich also discusses the importance of beauty treatments, fragrance, and posture. With regard to beauty treatments, she simply recommends treating yourself well. That is to say, we all should establish a routine of pampering ourselves, whether that is with a bubble bath and glass of wine, or a tea party and lingerie…it is so important to spend time with yourself doing whatever makes you feel pretty. This also means wearing your silk gowns to bed every night, if only, and especially for yourself!
With regard to fragrance…Rich states that it should be a part of your self-care routine, but also a part of the seductive flirting process, as fragrance is a powerful aphrodisiac. She recommends dabbing it on before bed, occasionally spraying your pillows, and layering during the day. Note: Layering a fragrance helps with its lasting power. Layering is also all about the process; pampering yourself with lotion, powder, and then perfume.
My personal favorite is:

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Chanel’s Coco Mademoiselle
You can find the lotion, powder, and perfume here!

Finally, she also stresses the importance of the “Perfect Match!” She writes this with regard to matching lingerie, stating that:
“Matching underneath is just as important as matching on top. When you wear sexy lingerie, you feel sexy. And when you feel sexy, you act sexy. It’s that simple. “

My take away from this chapter is that self-care builds self-love, and self-love builds confidence!! I hope you all decide to check out What Southern Women Know about Flirting, and some of Ronda Rich’s other work.
There really is something for everyone in this book ❤

Until next time,

xoxo
Marie

Lingerie and the Art of Ornamentation. An interview with Prof. Dr. Laurent de Sutter

From the origins of basic undergarments to the Victorian corset and the birth of the gravity defying underwire bra- women have been looking for ways to support, suppress or accentuate the curves for a very long time. The ancient Egyptians wore a band of linen under their diaphanous robes to flatten the bust line, Cretan women invented the corset to create an hour glass waist and the women of ancient Greece, banned from wearing corsets and crinoline, wore the Apodesme instead: a band of fine material tied around the torso for supporting the breasts during movement. The invention of the brassiere, broadly referred to as the bra, liberated women from the pain of the corset, which had proven to cause irrevocable damages to the female well-being over the course of time. It’s been a long road from women’s health to Ermine Cadolle, Agent Provocateur, Carine Gilson and La Perla…

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Nette Rose: Flirty Intimates Handmade in South Africa

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Nette Rose is a gorgeous handmade intimates brand from South Africa. The brand was founded, designed, and produced by Megan Miller, using local fabric suppliers in Cape Town. In an Elle South Africa article she described how she named her brand “Nette Rose” (pronounced Nettie Rose) after her two “sensational and stylish” grandmothers, Nette, who bought her first pair of fabric scissors, and Rose, who sparked up the idea of Megan going to a fashion academy.

The brand has since reached Europe via Nic and Steff Fitzgerald, two Switzerland-based distributers who are also originally from South Africa. One day, they came across an article about Nette Rose, and in their words “immediately fell in love”. And I am not surprised! They are very happy to support “a young, responsible, South African brand!”

Nette Rose intimates are contributors to the slow fashion movement, handmade in South Africa with “fun, cheek, and a lot of laughs!” something that was a further…

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6 Trendy Boudoir Outfit Ideas to Watch Out For

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A couple of years back, you could say with much confidence that boudoir was a popular trend. Brides would go out of their way to have surprise gifts for their grooms. Today, it is a norm. Everyone does it. People enjoy it. Any person can have boudoir photography and look awesome. Regardless of your body type, you can still take advantage of various boudoir outfits to suit the occasion. So which trendy ideas can you opt for?

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Sexy T-shirt Look

Can you get one of his old white T-shirts? Well, it might as well be the only thing to capture the most out of the photo session. Tie the shirt across your chest to give this sexy, witty look. Match it with a tempting pair of underpants. You can still choose booty shorts for the lower part. It is the perfect outfit for someone who is ready to…

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Lemon Matcha Cake Bites

 

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These Lemon Matcha Cake Bites are a slightly more sophisticated version of cake balls, which have been all the craze over the last few years.  These truffles are just as easy to make as traditional cake balls, but with some matcha green tea powder, fresh lemon, and white chocolate, these cute little cake bites are transformed from sweet treats to charming one-of-a-kind confections.

I think I’ve gone matcha-crazed lately.  It’s that beautiful, natural green color that I can’t get enough of, especially as Christmas is coming around the corner.  There’s just no “leaf green” shade of green food coloring that can match the beauty, taste, and wholesomeness of matcha green tea.

I’ve made a matcha pound cake here by adding 2 tablespoons of matcha to my favorite pound cake recipe, but the green tea cake can also be made by mixing the same amount of matcha tea powder into a…

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Earl Grey, Chocolate & Marshmallow tart

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Hello baking! I have missed you. I was blessed to won an amazing package from The Food Show, courtesy of UltimateOmnoms and decided to make use of some of the amazing products in the box. The instant I saw the Fresh As freeze dried cherries, I knew a marshmallow had to be made (they taste amazing and 100 times better than artificial flavoured store bought marshmallows), and the Paneton Bakery tart shells as well as the Traid Aid chocolate block were exactly what I needed to make this Earl Grey Milk Chocolate & marshmallow tart.

Admittedly the marshmallow was supposed to be raspberry instead of cherry (I didn’t read the packaging properly and assumed raspberries), but the cherries worked just as well. Also, if you haven’t tried Earl Grey and milk chocolate, you must! I adore tea infused chocolates, and this was another winning combination.

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I was under a tight time frame…

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